Sexual abuse cases are still notoriously underreported across the country. Power imbalances, a culture of silence and inadequate reporting mechanisms are the biggest factors that come into play. However, perhaps the most pressing factor of underreporting is the fact that many survivors are children.
Children are more vulnerable to abuse and don’t always know how to seek help. As a parent, it is your responsibility to protect them from such situations. Here’s how.
Educate your child
Teach your child about personal boundaries and the difference between appropriate and inappropriate behavior. Encourage them to speak up if they feel uncomfortable. Assure them that they will not be in trouble for telling you about anything that makes them uncomfortable.
Learn the signs of abuse
Recognizing the signs of sexual abuse is a must for timely and appropriate action. Potential indicators of sexual abuse in children can include:
- Difficulty walking or sitting
- Bruises, bleeding or swelling in the genital area
- Sudden changes in behavior or personality
- Withdrawal from friends or usual activities
- Reluctance to be left alone with certain individuals
- Depression and anxiety
- Nightmares
If you suspect your or any other child has suffered abuse in the hands of a clergy member, contact the New Jersey Clergy Abuse Task Force immediately.
Know your child’s environment at church
Be familiar with the settings where your child interacts with clergy or religious leaders, such as church services, youth groups or retreats.
Make sure these environments have clear policies for adult-child interactions and child protection. For example, you can check if your community performs background checks for all staff and volunteers.
Limit one-to-one situations
Approximately 81 percent of abuse cases happen when an adult is alone with a child. As much as possible, encourage group settings for interactions with clergy. Only allow private meetings if absolutely necessary.
Don’t be afraid to take legal action
Childhood sexual abuse can have life-long effects on children and their families, which is why it is so important to be proactive in protecting your child from such harm. But while preventive measures are vital, abuse can still occur.
If it happens to your child, experienced legal counsel can help you seek justice. Having knowledgeable support can make a significant difference in navigating this challenging time and ensuring the best possible outcome for your child and family.